It is not at all uncommon for marriages to run into hurdles. While some of these may lead to divorce, they do not always do so and may in fact serve to strengthen the marriage. Cooperation and understanding are at the root of overcoming difficulties in marriage. However, it may be hard to achieve these in circumstances where tempers are high.
Counseling is one option that may help you save your marriage by offering benefits like a safe environment for discussion and an impartial advisor. It is important to recognize signs you may need it to help preserve or rekindle your relationship.
One indicator that your marriage is in trouble is extreme negativity and aggression between you and your spouse. A certain level of arguing is normal and even healthy for relationships. Constant bickering, especially if it is over small things or the same thing, is not.
If you or your spouse begin to view each other as enemies, this is another red flag. Constant criticism, putting each other down and looking for reasons for conflict are all warning signs that something is wrong.
On the opposite end of the spectrum, a lack of feeling is also significant. Not caring where the other spouse is or about their daily lives is a major concern. Not having enough feelings left for each other to even argue about something is also a worry.
Lies tear relationships apart because they destroy trust. This applies doubly when it comes to finances. Every financial decision affects both you and your spouse and your combined future, so it is imperative not to hide major ones from each other.
Counseling is not an absolute guarantee of anything. However, it may help prevent the dissolution of your marriage if sought on time.